Designing Your Funeral
There are two facets of the design process. First, we ask you to consider how you wish to honor and celebrate the life. When those important decisions are made, we’ll turn to the issue of how you wish to care for the physical remains.
How to Honor a Life
It’s about bringing those you love together, at a time of loss. It’s a natural thing to do, and over time, has become a socially-expected practice. More importantly, a funeral or memorial service, whether traditional, or contemporary, is the first step in healing.
You can have your service anywhere, and any way, you want. Your choices include the place of celebration, day of the week, and time of day; the musical selection, what prayers will be said or songs you’d like sung. We can arrange to have doves, butterflies, or balloons released at the close of the service. Keepsake gifts of wildflower seeds or a tree seedling can be given. We’re here to help you create the most memorable and meaningful service to honor your loved one.
Burial or Cremation?
Your next consideration focuses on choosing between burial and cremation. Usually, people are clear on this point. In fact, your loved one may have told you, or someone else, exactly how they wish to be cared for. But it can be a hard decision for some families, especially when the wishes of the deceased were never clearly stated, or if they conflict with personal ideas or beliefs. If that's the case, please know we're able to help you come to the perfect decision for your loved one, and for you.
Once you decide, the finer details come into focus. If you've chosen burial, it makes your decisions simpler requireing the selection of the casket, vault, and desired cemetery. Many selection options exist and we will make them all available to you.
If cremation is your choice, then you'll find that it can be more complicated than you might have expected. Many of our families opt to have services with the body present, followed by cremation and burial of the crematied remains. In any case, families have many more decisions that need attention. With every cremation there is a requirement of a rigid container which carries the body from the service or funeral home to the crematory. Options, including rental caskets are available for those who prefer not to purchase a casket, however a wooden casket or corrugated container (combustable) is an option. In addition to the container for the body, a selection of what will house the cremated remains and their dosposition are required. With the immediate need of disposition being cremation it can delay the need to make final resting place decisions, complicating and prolonging the process of healing. Some options may include placing the cremated remains in a mausoleum niche, burying on the cemetery grounds, scattering, keeping in the families posession just to name a few.
In our community, there's the option for a 'green burial.' If that's what your loved one would prefer, we'll help you select an environmentally-friendly choice.
Now that we've given you the basics, it's time to reflect more on exactly what is appropriate for you and your family. If possible, gather everyone together to speak of their feelings and desires.
Still looking for inspiration? Speaking with a professional funeral planner will help to clarify your thinking. Reach us at (585) 244-0770 in Brighton and (585) 872-6380 in Webster.